Tiyeni tiyang'ane nazo izi: nkhawa ndi kupsinjika maganizo kungakhale kovuta. Ambiri omwe amakhala nawo amatha kuwonetsa mphamvu zawo kwa omwe ali nawo pafupi, kuwonetsetsa kuti okondedwa awo asamve mwanjira imeneyi.
Ngakhale kuli kofunika kugawana chikondi, kuiwala za inu nokha kungayambitse khalidwe lodalira komanso kutaya chidziwitso chanu. Pamene ena amabwera koyamba nthawi zonse, mumadziuza mobwerezabwereza: Ndine wocheperako.
Kudzikonda sikungokhudza anthu okongola, ochita bwino, osowa pang'ono pa Instagram. Ndiwe munthu yekhayo amene muzikhala naye sekondi iliyonse ya moyo wanu, ndiye kuti ndi luso lofunika kwambiri lomwe mungaphunzirepo.
Sizingakhale zophweka, koma kuyamba kumvetsetsa nokha kungapangitse njira yololera kusatetezeka kwanu. Pambuyo pa izi, mutha kukondwerera nokha pang'ono.
Lekani kudikira kuti “moyo weniweniwo” uyambe
Uku ndi kutsika chabe, sichoncho? Si moyo wanu weniweni, panobe. Zomwe muyenera kuchita ndikudutsa pazovuta izi, ndiye kuti moyo wanu weniweni ukhala ukudikirira pakona ndipo mudzakhala. wokonzeka chifukwa cha izo.
Ngati mukuyembekeza kuti mitambo ichotsedwe mukangotaya thupi, kapena kupeza ndalama zambiri, kapena kupeza "ameneyo", tengani kamphindi kuti mudzifunse zomwe mukuganiza kuti zidzachitika.
Izi sikuti zikulepheretseni kuyesetsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu: ndi zosiyana. Nthawi zambiri, mukuyang'ana zinthu izi chifukwa zingakulemeretseni moyo wanu kapena kukuthandizani. Zina ndi chifukwa chakuti mumazifuna - ndipo zili bwino!
Komabe, kuwona moyo wanu ngati nthawi zingapo mu limbo kumangokupangitsani kuyang'ana mmbuyo ndikuzindikira kuchuluka kwa nthawi yomwe mudaphonya. Inde, kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu kungapangitse moyo wanu kukhala wabwino, koma sizingayambike. Mukuchita moyo tsopano.
Simuyenera kuyamba ndi chikondi
Makandulo onse onunkhira padziko lapansi sangakupangitseni kudzikonda ngati RuPaul. Uwu ndi ulendo wapang'onopang'ono wopita kukakumana ndi kusatetezeka kwanu ndipo, nthawi zina, lingaliro lokondwerera zinthu zina za inu limawoneka zosatheka. Kotero, ngati simudzadzikonda nokha, kudzikonda kuli kopanda phindu, chabwino ...?
Ngati chikondi sichingachitike, cholinga kulolerana choyamba. Tikhoza kudziimba mlandu tsiku lililonse, mpaka kufika pamene zimaoneka ngati zachilendo. Mwayi mungamve kudwala mukanena zomwezi kwa wokondedwa wanu.
Malingaliro onyansa, otopetsa, kapena olephera amatha kulowa m'maganizo mwathu mwachangu kuposa momwe ndingathere kuwaletsa. Ngakhale kuti sikutheka kulamulira maganizo amenewa, zili ndi inu kuwakonza.
Zitsimikizo zabwino zimagwira ntchito kwa ena - koma, kwa ambiri aife, zimangowonongeka pang'ono. Mawu ngati, “Ndine wokongola”, “Ndine wodziimira pawokha”, kapena “Nditha kuchita chilichonse” angaoneke ngati mabodza ngati mukulimbana ndi kudzikayikira kapena muli ndi zolepheretsa m'moyo wanu.
M’malo mwake, tiyeni tionenso za kudzilekerera. Yesetsani kunena mawu osakondera omwe ali oona. Yesani:
- Ndinadzuka pabedi.
- Galuyo amadalira ine kuti ndimudyetse.
- Ndine munthu, ndipo anthu onse ayenera kulemekezedwa.
- Ndiyeseranso.
- Sindinasweke.
- Sibwino kukhumudwa.
- Thupi langa silinalakwe chilichonse.
- Sindidzamva chonchi mpaka kalekale.
- Ndavala chovala changa chomwe ndimakonda lero.
Sankhani zitsanzo zomwe sizingatsutse. Zidzakhala zovuta kuti ubongo wanu utuluke mwa iwo - ngakhale utayesa. M’kupita kwa nthawi, mungawasunthire m’mwamba: kuchokera “Ndavala chovala chimene ndimakonda” mpaka “Ndimakonda mmene ndimamvera mu chovalachi” mpaka “Ndimakonda mmene ndimaonekera mu chovalachi”, mwachitsanzo.
Kutsimikiza osalowerera ndale ndikofunikira kwambiri pakukonzanso momwe mumadziwonera nokha, chifukwa sizidzamva ngati mukudzinamiza. Izo zonse ndi zoona.
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Makamaka mu zaka za makumi awiri ndi makumi atatu, zikhoza kumverera ngati zoyembekeza zonse sizingatheke. Ndipo ndi chifukwa iwo ali! Iyi ndi nthawi yosiyana siyana ya moyo kotero kuti mwakuthupi simungakhale pazinthu zonse zomwe mukumva kuti anthu amayembekezera kwa inu. Fulumirani! Chedweraniko pang'ono! Izi ndi zaka zanu zabwino kwambiri!
Nkwachibadwa kutembenukira kwa mabwenzi ndi achibale amene akumanapo ndi zochitika zazikuluzi ndi kumva ngati kuti muyenera kutsatira nzeru zawo zenizeni. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti ziyenera kugwira ntchito kwa inu pano - kapena konse.
Izi ndizofanana ndi momwe mumakulira. Mwina mukuona kuti mwaphonya mwayi wanu. Kuyang'ana pafupi, mutha kupeza kuti zifukwa zanu zimagwirizana ndi miyambo kapena malingaliro akale a zomwe kholo / wophunzira / katswiri "ayenera" kuwoneka.
Muzimva mmene mukumvera
Izi ndizovuta. Upangiri wonse waumoyo umakonzedwa kuti tisangalale tikamamva kutsika kotsika.
Izi zati, kutembenuka kosalekeza si njira yothetsera nthawi yayitali yowongolera malingaliro anu. Ngati pali zina zomwe muyenera kukonza, ndikofunikira ndikumverera izo. Izi ndizosavuta kuziyika: mukumva kale zinyalala, ndiye bwanji kukhala ndikuphika? Kulimbana ndi zovuta kumakhala kotopetsa, ndipo nthawi zina mulibe nthawi yodzichotsera tsiku lonse.
Komanso, zingakhale zovuta kuzindikira kuti ndinu osati kumva pa nthawi yovuta. Freud adazindikira njira yodzitchinjiriza yotchedwa "intellectualization", pomwe munthu amadzilowetsa mozama munjira yomveka bwino kotero kuti amanyalanyaza malingaliro ake.
Zingawoneke ngati mukudziponyera nokha m'makonzedwe amaliro mutatayika, kapena kuyesa kulungamitsa zochita za munthu amene wakuchitirani zoipa.
Izi zimapangitsa kuti ziwoneke ngati mukukumana ndi vutoli, koma zoona zake, simuli pafupi kufika pa gwero lake ndikulola kuchira.
Ngati mwakhala mukukhumudwa kapena kuda nkhawa kwakanthawi, mutha kukhala kuti mwakhazikitsa maziko oyambira moyo wanu wonse. Chabwino, simuli wamkulu, koma ndinu wokhazikika. Simuli oyipa kuposa momwe munalili sabata yatha.
Vuto ndilakuti, ngati mwakhala mukuchita izi kwa nthawi yayitali ya moyo wanu, mwina simungadziwe momwe mungakhalire ndi malingaliro anu. Ichi ndi chinthu chomwe chiyenera kuphunziridwa ndipo mwina sichingabwere mosavuta nthawi zingapo zoyambirira.
Yambani ndi kuzindikira momwe thupi lanu likukhudzidwira. Kodi mukumva kuwawa, kukhumudwa, kapena opanda kanthu? Kenako, yang'anani mitundu ya malingaliro omwe amabwera m'maganizo mwanu. Zilembeni ngati zikuthandizani.
Poyesera kufotokoza zakukhosi kwathu, nthawi zambiri timapereka chifukwa cha kutengeka mtima, osati kutengeka kumene. Munganene kuti, “Sindikudziwa choti ndichite kenako,” m’malo moti “Ndikuchita mantha”. Yesetsani kulekanitsa awiriwa; wiritsani maganizo anu pansi ndi kumvetsera zizindikiro za thupi zomwe thupi lanu likupereka. Dzifunseni kuti: Kodi kumverera motere kuli bwanji? Kodi kuyesera kulankhulana ndi chiyani? Mukufuna chiyani kwambiri pompano?
Chomwe chimalekanitsa kukonza ndikudzigudubuza ndikuti ndinu otseguka kuti muzitha kudzimvetsetsa bwino - ngakhale muyime ndikuyesanso tsiku lina.