Tisunga malingaliro a kugona ndi kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi: awa mwina ndi magawo ofunikira kwambiri amalingaliro athanzi, koma zikuwoneka kuti mudamvapo kale.
Kudzichotsa pamutu woyipa sikophweka, makamaka ngati muli ndi vuto la nkhawa kapena kupsinjika maganizo. Nthawi zambiri, mumafuna kusintha, koma mulibe mphamvu, kapena kudalira kuphulika kwamphamvu kwachangu.
Kukhazikitsa zazing'onoting'ono, zosintha tsiku ndi tsiku kumatha kupangitsa kuti njira zoyambazi zisakhale zowopsa. Mwa kumvetsera ku ubongo wanu ndi kukhala wodekha kwa inu nokha, mukhoza kuphunzira kugwira ntchito kuti mupindule nokha.
Kungakhale kothandiza kukhala ndi pulani yoti mubwererenso kumbuyo ngati mukukumana ndi nkhawa - makamaka ngati mwapeza nthawi yowonjezera mchaka chatha.
Izi sizitanthauza kuti muzitsatira ntchito zosasangalatsa nthawi yankhondo tsiku lililonse. Kupanga magawo ang'onoang'ono m'dongosolo lanu kumapangitsa tsikulo kukhala ndi cholinga ndikuthandizani kuti mukhalebe pamwamba pazantchito.
Izi zitha kungotanthauza kutsuka mbale mukangomaliza kudya kuti musadzaze, kapena kudzipatsa nokha chakudya chamadzulo Lachisanu.
Palibe chifukwa chotsatira nthawi ngati simukufuna, koma kukhala ndi china chake kumakupatsani mwayi wopatukana pakati pa ntchito ndi kupumula.
Ponena izi, bwanji kutsatira malamulo omwe amangopangitsa moyo kukhala wovuta? Mndandanda wazosatha zoyembekezera utha kukhala kulemera kwenikweni, ndipo munthawi izi ndikofunikira kukumbukira….onse apangidwa.
Izi ndizosavuta kuzichita kuposa kuchita: sitingakane chilichonse chomwe chimayambitsa kupsinjika. Komabe, nthawi zina anthu amapezeka kuti akutsatira malamulo kuti asangalatse anthu omwe samawasamala, kapena omwe sagwirizana ndi moyo wawo watsiku ndi tsiku.
Kuswa banki kwa ukwati wa mnzako? Muli ndi china choti muvale kunyumba. Simukupeza bwenzi la cinema? Pitani nokha. Mukufuna kugula supermarket pakati pausiku? Oyisitara wanu wapadziko lonse lapansi.
Ngati muli ndi nkhawa kale, kupanikizika kwanu kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kuposa kale, kapena manyazi.
In buku lake, Momwe Mungasungire Nyumba Mukamira, KC Davis akuwonetsa kusunthira zofunika zanu patsogolo kuchoka ku "makhalidwe" kupita ku "ntchito". Manyazi ndichomwe chimalimbikitsa thanzi, ndipo chidwi chofuna kuti zinthu zizikhala bwino nthawi zonse chingatilepheretse kuyambira pomwepo.
Njira ya Davis ndiyoyenera kukumbukira ngati mukuvutikira: kukhala ndi chinthu chimodzi chabwino ndikwabwino kuposa kupumitsidwa ndi zinthu zonse kuti muchite bwino.
Tiyenera kudziwa kuti kupewa si njira yothanirana ndi mavuto, ndipo sikuyenera kudaliridwa ngati yankho la nkhawa.
Komabe, sizowononga kuti zinthu zikhale zosavuta momwe mungathere, bola mutalankhula za mantha anu munjira zina. Tonse tikungoyandama pathanthwe mumlengalenga, ndipo a Marie Kondo-kulowetsani masokosi anu sangasinthe izi.
Ma social media ndi malo okondwerera kupambana. Komabe, kudutsa nthawi yosangalatsa kwambiri ya wina aliyense kumatha kukhala kovuta kukhala ndi moyo wabwino.
Momwemonso, kugula pa intaneti ndi lupanga lakuthwa konsekonse. Nthawi zina mumangonong'oneza chinthu chisanathe kutsatsa…kenako dengu lanu.
Komabe, kukhala nazo zonse pomwepo zimapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuyang'ana pazomwe mulibe. Chotsani ku spam ndikutsatira anzanu omwe nthawi zonse amakhala patchuthi chodabwitsa. Ngati mukufuna china chokwanira, mudzachiyang'ana.
Kulowetsa m'malingaliro kumatha kukhala ndi gawo lalikulu pamachitidwe athu atsiku ndi tsiku kuposa momwe tingaganizire. Zambiri zamavuto athu atsiku ndi tsiku sizingakhale zogwirizana ndi ntchito zomwezo, koma makamaka momwe zimatipangitsira kumva.
Tikakakamizidwa mopitirira muyeso, thupi lathu limatumiza machenjezo mwakachetechete kuti china chake chalakwika - koma, chifukwa satiwopseza nthawi yomweyo, savuta kunyalanyaza. Ndi zazing'ono, zinthu za tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zimamangirira, ndikosavuta kuti musazindikire mpaka mutatsala pang'ono kutopa.
Kulimbana modzidzimutsa nthawi zambiri kumadziphimba ngati zinthu zina kapena kumakusiyani mukumva zinyalala popanda chifukwa chodziwikiratu. Nthawi ina izi zikadzachitika, dzifunseni ngati malo omwe mukukhala angakhale akukuthandizani kuti mukhale osangalala:
Kudzimva
Mukumva bwanji: Wotopa, wosakhazikika, wanjala, wosungulumwa, wokwiya, wokwiya, wopanda kanthu, wokakamira, wopupuluma.
Momwe zingawonekere: Kusokonezedwa poyesa kuyang'ana; kuyenda; kumverera kusowa kwakukulu kwa chinachake koma simukudziwa kuti chiyani. Zokonda zanthawi zonse zingawoneke ngati zazing'ono kapena zosasangalatsa. Mutha kukhala ndi chidwi chofuna kusuta kapena kumwa mowa.
Kukonza ntchito: Mverani nyimbo zodekha; tsegulani zenera. Doodle kapena sewerani ndi kanthu kakang'ono komanso chete (pepala lalikulu, Blu-Tac) pamisonkhano. Dulani pa karoti kapena chipatso pamene mukugwira ntchito. Tengani mphindi 5 kuti mupange zakumwa kapena kuthandizira paulendo wina.
Ngati mumagwira ntchito kunyumba, ganizirani ngati kukhazikitsa kwina kungagwire ntchito kwa inu. Kodi mungagwire ntchito ku cafe? Kodi desiki loyimilira lingakusungitseni zala zanu?
Konzani zosangalatsa: Phulitsani nyimbo ndi kuvina limodzi. Itanani foni ndi mnzanu. Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi. Kuphika, kapena kupanga chakudya chamadzulo. Gwiritsani ntchito bulangeti lolemera kapena kukumbatirana kuchokera kwa wokondedwa. Sambani.
Kukondoweza
Mukumva bwanji: Pochita mantha, osakhazikika, osankha zochita, akufuna kuti achoke. Mutha kukhala ndi nkhawa ikubwera.
Momwe zingawonekere: Kugawaniza kunja poyesa kuyang'ana. Kusazengereza kuyambitsa ntchito koma osatsimikiza chifukwa. Limbikitsani kusiya zomwe zachitika - "mawonekedwe oyendetsa ndege" atsegulidwa.
Kukonza ntchito: Sungani mahedifoni ena okutani phokoso. Mverani phokoso loyera. Lembani mndandanda wa zochita ndikuzigawa m'magulu okhoza kutheka. Dulani zidutswazo ngakhale zazing'ono.
Khalani ndi zokhwasula-khwasula zosavuta, zopanda pake ngati mumakonda kuyiwala kudya. Valani zovala zoyenera koma zowoneka bwino komanso zosanjikiza. Tengani mphindi 5 kuti muthawire kubafa.
Apanso, ngati mutha kuyang'anira malo anu ogwirira ntchito, yesani kuyatsa kosawoneka bwino kapena sungani magalasi oyang'ana pafupi.
Konzani zosangalatsa: Thawirani kwinakwake komwe kuli mdima komanso popanda zosokoneza. Sambani mofunda. Onerani china chotonthoza pa TV. Khazikitsani malire anu ndikuwonetsetsa kuti inunso komanso ena mukumamatira.
Ambiri aife timadziwa ngati ndife "m'mawa" kapena "usiku" - koma ndi angati a ife omwe timagwiritsa ntchito? Patsiku logwira ntchito 9-5, ndizosavuta kungoyamwa khofi ndikuyembekeza kuti tidzagwira ntchito nkhomaliro.
Phunzirani maola anu opindulitsa kwambiri ndikuwona ngati mungasinthe zochita zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku kuti zigwirizane nazo.
Zosintha zina zimangobwera ndi mwayi - si ambiri aife omwe "tingangosamba!" kapena "thawani!" m'nthawi yodyera. Koma ndizotheka kugwira ntchito zazing'ono kuti zikuthandizeni.
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti wogwira ntchito wamba ali nazo maola atatu kapena asanu ya ntchito yabwino mwa iwo patsiku. Yesetsani kugwira ntchito mosasinthasintha, koma zindikirani zenera la tsiku ndi tsiku kuti mulowemo.
Ganizirani za "osasokoneza" pamaimelo osafunikira panthawiyi, kapena gwiritsani ntchito njira ngati phwetekere kulimbikitsa zophulika zazifupi pantchito yolunjika. Mukamaliza nthawi yanu yabwino kwambiri mumaola anu opindulitsa kwambiri, gwiritsani ntchito slump kuti muyende kudzera maimelo kapena kuthana ndi zovuta zochepa.
Zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri paumoyo wanu ndikukhazikitsa malire anu, ndikudziwa nthawi yomwe thandizo lanu lingawononge thanzi lanu. Kunena kuti "ayi" kungakhale kovuta, makamaka ngati munthu amene akufunsayo akutanthauza zambiri kwa inu.
Ndizabwino kuthandiza nthawi zina, koma yesetsani kuti musayese kupeza zifukwa zomwe simungakwanitse. Mabodza ang'onoang'ono amakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu olakwa, komabe kumakhala kosavuta komanso kosavuta kudalira momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito kwambiri. Ndizotheka kukhala aulemu, koma pangani malingaliro anu momveka:
- "Zikomo pondiganizira, koma sindingathe."
- “Ndili ndi zinthu zingapo zofunika kuziganizira kaye. Kodi ndingakudziwitseni nthawi ina? ”
- “Sindidzapezeka pa nthawi imeneyo.”
Zodandaula zanu zikhozanso kukupangitsani kukhala kovuta kuti "inde", nanunso. Kuopa ndalama, nthawi, kapena tsogolo kumasiya ambiri a ife tikunyamula kunyumba. "Ayi" ang'onoang'ono amawonjezera, ndipo musanazindikire, chilichonse chatsopano chimamveka chowopsa.
Chidwi ndi zokumana nazo zatsopano zimatilepheretsa kuti zisayime, ndipo zatsimikiziridwa kuti kulimbitsa ubongo wathu kumalimbikitsa chidwi, chidwi, komanso kukhala ndi moyo kwakanthawi.
Funsani maphunziro a madzulo amenewo; bukitsani kumapeto kwa sabata; penyani kanemayo ngakhale mukuganiza kuti mudzaida. Moyo ndi waufupi, ndipo ndizovuta kupita patsogolo kumalo anu abwino.
Ziribe kanthu kuchuluka kwa mbale yanu, kuda nkhawa kapena kukhumudwa sikuyenera kukhala chizolowezi. Onetsetsani kuti mwasungitsa nthawi yokumana ndi a GP ngati malingaliro anu akupitilira.
Ngati mukuda nkhawa ndi thanzi lanu lamankhwala, itanani NHS Direct pa 111.